A month ago I was skimming through a Reddit post that asked this question about the single-parent community, “How does everyone deal with loneliness?” And that caught my attention because we all feel lonely somewhere on our journey.
First of all, I want to put the exact words they shared so you know what real single parent deal with this question when it comes to loneliness then I will give some fantastic tips to overcome this loneliness. And believe me, those tips worked for me and I am sure it will work for you too.
So the question was followed by this post, “I’m a full-time single mom who works for a time and 60% of the time I’m happy and everything is well. But that 40%…………. That overwhelming feeling that I’m going to end up alone without any special person in my life is drowning me. I put my first kids and take some time for myself when I can. And I’ve committed to the stance that they deserve the best childhood I can provide. But I miss having a companion. A partner in crime. Someone who is just mine. Does anyone else deal with these feelings? How do you manage them or cope? Any advice would be appreciated and welcomed.”
We all went through this but we can deal with this.
So here are some best responses I found to that post:
Unknown: “The loneliness is unbearable sometimes, and no one sees the struggle because we are deemed strong, independent women who need no one. I cry I sleep, and when I cannot do either of those, I try to do something fun with my daughter. I wish I knew the secret to overcoming loneliness.”
Unknown: “I occasionally get lonely, but I just remind myself that it’s only fleeting, in comparison to being unhappy every single day in a shitty relationship.I have been single for a long time and I can say that over time you get used to it.. and I very rarely feel lonely. Having a great friend and family network helps too.
In saying all that, I would love a partner, but I know I will have love when it’s meant to be. This is my single mum season.. life is long and one day you will look back on these days.. just enjoy them.”
Unknown: “I found the answer to the loneliness in God, my church, and my friends.”
There were tons of responses but most of them were struggling and only a few could answer the solution to this problem.
So here I want to share How to deal with loneliness:
Embracing Solo Parenting: 7 Strategies That Have Made a Difference
Becoming a solo parent comes with its own unique set of challenges. From adjusting to a new lifestyle to finding ways to stay connected and fulfilled, the journey can be both rewarding and daunting.
These seven strategies have proven helpful for navigating solo parenting and finding personal fulfillment along the way. Whether you’re already a solo parent or contemplating this path, these tips may inspire you to embrace your role with confidence and optimism.
1. Meticulous Planning:
Embracing Structure for Success One of the keys to thriving as a solo parent is meticulous planning. Being proactive and organized helps create a stable and secure environment for your child.
Take the time to plan ahead, especially when your child is not with you, ensuring that their needs are met even when you’re apart. Embrace structure and find ways to strike a balance between spontaneity and the responsibilities of parenthood.
2. Avoiding the Comparison Trap:
Embracing Individuality Comparing yourself to your past self or others can be a recipe for self-doubt and discontent. Instead, focus on your own journey as a solo parent and celebrate your unique achievements and growth. Embrace your individuality and create your own definition of success and happiness.
3. Morning Exercise:
Embracing Physical and Mental Well-being Starting your day with exercise can have a profound impact on your overall well-being. Make it a priority to engage in some form of physical activity, whether it’s a brisk walk, yoga, or a workout routine. Exercise not only helps maintain your physical health but also boosts your mood, energy levels, and mental clarity.
4. Active Involvement in Your Child’s School:
Embracing Community and Connection Being deeply engaged with your child’s school can provide a sense of belonging and combat feelings of loneliness. Take an active role by volunteering, running the PTO, or participating in school activities. Building connections with other parents and teachers can create a supportive network and enrich both your and your child’s lives.
5. Dreaming of Your Ideal Self:
Embracing Personal Growth As a solo parent, it’s crucial to carve out time for self-reflection and personal growth. Take moments to dream about your future self, envisioning who you want to become independently of any partnership. Setting personal goals and aspirations will help you stay focused and motivated on your own journey.
6. Finding Support and Community:
Embracing Shared Values Consider joining a community or organization that aligns with your values and provides a supportive network. Attending a church or community group that promotes inclusivity and belonging can offer valuable social interactions and introduce you to new people who share your interests and outlook on life.
7. Journaling for Emotional Release:
Embracing Self-Expression The act of journaling can be cathartic and therapeutic. Make it a habit to write down your thoughts, feelings, and experiences regularly. Journaling provides an outlet for emotional release, helps process challenging emotions, and allows for self-reflection and personal growth.
Embracing solo parenting requires a blend of practical strategies and a positive mindset. By incorporating meticulous planning, self-acceptance, exercise, involvement in your child’s school, personal aspirations, community engagement, and journaling into your life, you can navigate the journey with grace and resilience.
Remember, you are capable of creating a fulfilling and meaningful life for yourself and your child, and these strategies can serve as stepping stones along the path to solo parenting success.